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以下是转发的邮件：
> 发件人: "J_Joffery" <[log in to unmask]>
> 日期: 2016年10月4日 GMT-4 下午10:07:21
> 收件人: "Jim Lee" <[log in to unmask]>
> 主题: 回复： [CSSAMSU] Need a Chinese language tutor
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> His wife is a great woman, and he may be a great father. However that job is not good for young ladies, unless someone is willing to develop a special relationship.
> He needs psychotherapy.
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> ------------------ 原始邮件 ------------------
> 发件人: "Jim Lee";<[log in to unmask]>;
> 发送时间: 2016年10月5日(星期三) 上午9:47
> 收件人: "CSSAMSU"<[log in to unmask]>;
> 主题: Re: [CSSAMSU] Need a Chinese language tutor
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> Ok Guys and Gals. I did not expect my reply to bring such a huge attention.
> My original confusion is that why this guy keep posting and posting. I bet
> I have seen over 20 of his post on one exactly same thing, FIND a (single)
> Female Tutor not to mention the posts I did not saw.
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> OK. Let's assume his purpose is justified. His kids do need a tutor. Yet it
> will be very strange for him to keep looking for a tutor.
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> There are only two explanation for this kind of situation. First, he
> thought every tutor he found has some problem and he dismissed each of them
> in a very short time. This actually implies that he has some problem but
> not the tutors. Second, he has some intention beyond finding a tutor for
> his kids.
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> In either case, I do not think he should be allowed to post this topic here
> anymore.
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> 大家好，没想到引来这么多关注。我觉得就算他的理由正当。他这样反复找人／换人的举动也说明他不正常。不管是他不正常还是他图谋不轨，我都觉得不合适再让他发贴了。以免有人受到伤害（心灵的，肉体的，或者他自己）
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> 2016-10-04 20:53 GMT-04:00 msumailist2014 <[log in to unmask]>:
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> > Assuming what you said is the true story, you probably should suggest him
> > to see a professional psychologist. He needs someone to help him out before
> > he finds someone to help his kid.
> > I am sorry for what happened to his family. But, clearly, what he wrote in
> > the listing (also in his response) indicates that he is sooooooo
> > desperately looking for a single lady. That is a shame because he claims
> > that he did it just to find a tutor for his kid! There is no season to
> > justify that!
> >
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> >
> > 在 2016-10-05 04:30:05，"Angie CSSAMSU" <[log in to unmask]> 写道：
> > >Ok, guys, I am the one who was there the whole time while his wife
> > Jessica was diagnosed as final stage cancer until she passed away. Jessica
> > is a truly nice person. That was a tough time for the family. Jessica’s
> > parents trust me so much. I am glad that I was able to at least provide
> > some comfort to them. The faculty members took turns to take care of the
> > kid while Dave and Jessica’s parents could focus on coping with the
> > situation. The faculty members and some doctoral students even set up an
> > education trust fund for their kid, who was a 3-year old back then. I have
> > been visiting Dave and their son periodically all these years. I would not
> > say that I understand everything about Dave. But I try to be understanding.
> > We are all human beings and we are complicated. But I am sure, he is not a
> > bad guy and he is a loving father. I won’t release too much information
> > about Dave and this family unless it is necessary and only for the purpose
> > of clarification.
> > >
> > >Dave has been very protective of his kid. In the past, he rejected people
> > for very subtle reasons that we would not even have a clue. From what was
> > described earlier, it looks to me that he might find some kind of misfit,
> > then he tried to justify with his seemingly “clumsy” excuses. He did this
> > because he did not want to hurt anyone’s feelings. As far as I know, they
> > had a middle-aged, divorced female tutor before. Dave described her as “had
> > instantly click with their so even though her English was not very good”
> > and “she would lie on the ground and let their son lied down in her arms”.
> > One time, I visited Dave with another guy friend. The whole time while we
> > were in their house, Dave did not allow that guy to get close to his son.
> > Was it rude? Yes, it was if you don’t understand how protective (or even
> > overprotective) Dave became after his son lost his mom. We may not
> > understand, we may not agree, but we will have to admit, we may be
> > different.
> > >
> > >Another reason why he is looking for a Chinese tutor is that his son is
> > getting custody in China. In that case, he wants to “force” his son to
> > learn Chinese.
> > >
> > >I am in the same cohort as Tao(I bet the faculty members will love to see
> > your argument on uncertainty avoidance😊). Our parents taught us girls not
> > to stay with a man alone in a private place unless you are in a
> > relationship, for self-protection’s sake. I usually bring a friend with me
> > when visiting Dave. I believe Dave will understand it and be open-minded to
> > work out some flexible plan if he finds a good fit (i.g., meet in public
> > place).
> > >
> > >I understand both perspectives. No one was doing anything wrong. All we
> > got were pieces of information here and there. I hope my explanation will
> > put a stop to the arguments.
> > >
> > >Best,
> > >Angie
> > >
> > >Sent from Mail for Windows 10
> > >
> > >From: Leonard Ling
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