Ok Guys and Gals. I did not expect my reply to bring such a huge attention.
My original confusion is that why this guy keep posting and posting. I bet
I have seen over 20 of his post on one exactly same thing, FIND a (single)
Female Tutor not to mention the posts I did not saw.
OK. Let's assume his purpose is justified. His kids do need a tutor. Yet it
will be very strange for him to keep looking for a tutor.
There are only two explanation for this kind of situation. First, he
thought every tutor he found has some problem and he dismissed each of them
in a very short time. This actually implies that he has some problem but
not the tutors. Second, he has some intention beyond finding a tutor for
his kids.
In either case, I do not think he should be allowed to post this topic here
anymore.
大家好，没想到引来这么多关注。我觉得就算他的理由正当。他这样反复找人／换人的举动也说明他不正常。不管是他不正常还是他图谋不轨，我都觉得不合适再让他发贴了。以免有人受到伤害（心灵的，肉体的，或者他自己）
2016-10-04 20:53 GMT-04:00 msumailist2014 <[log in to unmask]>:
> Assuming what you said is the true story, you probably should suggest him
> to see a professional psychologist. He needs someone to help him out before
> he finds someone to help his kid.
> I am sorry for what happened to his family. But, clearly, what he wrote in
> the listing (also in his response) indicates that he is sooooooo
> desperately looking for a single lady. That is a shame because he claims
> that he did it just to find a tutor for his kid! There is no season to
> justify that!
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> 在 2016-10-05 04:30:05，"Angie CSSAMSU" <[log in to unmask]> 写道：
> >Ok, guys, I am the one who was there the whole time while his wife
> Jessica was diagnosed as final stage cancer until she passed away. Jessica
> is a truly nice person. That was a tough time for the family. Jessica’s
> parents trust me so much. I am glad that I was able to at least provide
> some comfort to them. The faculty members took turns to take care of the
> kid while Dave and Jessica’s parents could focus on coping with the
> situation. The faculty members and some doctoral students even set up an
> education trust fund for their kid, who was a 3-year old back then. I have
> been visiting Dave and their son periodically all these years. I would not
> say that I understand everything about Dave. But I try to be understanding.
> We are all human beings and we are complicated. But I am sure, he is not a
> bad guy and he is a loving father. I won’t release too much information
> about Dave and this family unless it is necessary and only for the purpose
> of clarification.
> >
> >Dave has been very protective of his kid. In the past, he rejected people
> for very subtle reasons that we would not even have a clue. From what was
> described earlier, it looks to me that he might find some kind of misfit,
> then he tried to justify with his seemingly “clumsy” excuses. He did this
> because he did not want to hurt anyone’s feelings. As far as I know, they
> had a middle-aged, divorced female tutor before. Dave described her as “had
> instantly click with their so even though her English was not very good”
> and “she would lie on the ground and let their son lied down in her arms”.
> One time, I visited Dave with another guy friend. The whole time while we
> were in their house, Dave did not allow that guy to get close to his son.
> Was it rude? Yes, it was if you don’t understand how protective (or even
> overprotective) Dave became after his son lost his mom. We may not
> understand, we may not agree, but we will have to admit, we may be
> different.
> >
> >Another reason why he is looking for a Chinese tutor is that his son is
> getting custody in China. In that case, he wants to “force” his son to
> learn Chinese.
> >
> >I am in the same cohort as Tao(I bet the faculty members will love to see
> your argument on uncertainty avoidance😊). Our parents taught us girls not
> to stay with a man alone in a private place unless you are in a
> relationship, for self-protection’s sake. I usually bring a friend with me
> when visiting Dave. I believe Dave will understand it and be open-minded to
> work out some flexible plan if he finds a good fit (i.g., meet in public
> place).
> >
> >I understand both perspectives. No one was doing anything wrong. All we
> got were pieces of information here and there. I hope my explanation will
> put a stop to the arguments.
> >
> >Best,
> >Angie
> >
> >Sent from Mail for Windows 10
> >
> >From: Leonard Ling
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