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@Dave, I'm truly sorry to hear the sad story and the loss of your beloved wife. But if you expect the potential to develop the relationship beyond a "tutor", it's better to state this point clearly. And I do believe you can find a new mom who loves your son as much as his birth mom. On Tue, Oct 4, 2016 at 2:31 PM, 杜南 <[log in to unmask]> wrote: > 这跟中国文化有啥关系啊……难道美国女生就敢单枪匹马闯陌生男人家里？再说了这标题就是征家教，又不是替孩子找妈……我觉得大部分人的直觉都是这帖子很诡异 > > Date: Tue, 4 Oct 2016 14:06:03 -0400 > > From: [log in to unmask] > > Subject: Re: [CSSAMSU] Need a Chinese language tutor > > To: [log in to unmask] > > > > 大家别骂了，他太太过身是真的，我们CAS学院的都知道。那位中国老师是很好的人，因为用功过度得病的。对她的家人， > 我觉得大家多点宽容。没了老婆，儿子没了妈妈是很惨的。他在沟通过程中有什么犯错不足的，大家尽量帮忙提意见。 > 增加正能量，为社会主义添砖加瓦，早日征服美帝人。 > > > > Thank you for your very insightful research Peng. From your description > and the information Dave supplied I have over 95% confidence interval in > what Dave said. > > > > I heard about the past of Jessica from my cohorts in CAS back in 2014. > As one of the many Chinese students from the ADPR program, I am very sorry > for your lost Dave. I wish from the bottom of my heart the very best for > you and your son. Something we can do at this point is to help clarify the > misunderstandings on this forum and hopefully you will find what you need. > > > > Dave, as you might know something about the Chinese cultural, we are > traditionally a very collective culture. We protect our in-groups > especially our women and children. We are also very low in uncertainty > avoidance, which means we don't usually trust strangers by their words. We > will need a lot of information, credentials and contacts to establish the > base of trust. This is very important for single women living overseas by > themselves. They have very little protection and many "insecurities" here. > If you please state your requirements more clearly in your communications > and you will get positive response. I would suggest posting photos, > credentials, and other information about you and your son. Hope that helps. > > > > Best, > > > > Tao Deng > > Communication Arts & Sciences > > 404 Wilson Rd., Room 550 > > East Lansing, MI 48824 > > E-mail: [log in to unmask] > > > On Oct 4, 2016, at 13:18, Burkholderia Peng <[log in to unmask]> > wrote: > > > > > > 标题：我们也许需要给予这个哥们多一点宽容 > > > > > > 正文：两三个月前我曾经联系过这个哥们，告诉他我的爱人闲赋在家（那时候她还没想学GRE）。之后他给了我如下的回复 > > > Thank you much for your response.....very sadly my beloved Chinese wife > > > passed away four years ago and at this time we prefer a female tutor > who > > > does not have family related responsibilities so as to allow for > focusing > > > her attention exclusively upon my son....we Skype with the grandparents > > > each Sunday morning and it would be nice if my son could > conversationally > > > speak Chinese with them....it's not easy to find a tutor often times > due to > > > conflicting school class schedules , travel distance to and from our > house > > > and there also might be visa restrictions so you will be seeing my > tutor > > > posting several times.....hope you can appreciate these points.....good > > > luck here in America and hope you will be enjoying your visit and the > > > winter time SNOW and COLD.....thanks again for your kind offer.....take > > > care... > > > > > > 看完他的邮件我当时怒发冲冠，羞愤难当，查克拉已满，体内九尾兽随时爆发。因为我就住在meridian > > > mall旁边，他家也在那里，我还告诉他我能开车接送。他回复我travel distance > > > restricted！！另外我都告诉我我爱人是陪读，他告诉我conflicting > > > class！！最可恨的是那句 female tutor who does not have family related > > > responsibilities。这句英文之委婉让我深感英文之博大，之浩瀚。 > > > > > > 后来多次看到这个哥们推送邮件，我就在google 非常random地搜索了关键词 “Dave Carlo lansing”。 > > > http://cas.msu.edu/cas-faculty-member-jessica-carlo-passes/ > 请放心打开链接，是MSU的。 > > > 如果他是本人的话，他说的都是事实，他应该确实是找tutor，也能理解为什么希望是中国人， > 或许他希望这个tutor能或多或少填补一下孩子缺失的母爱， > > > 所以希望是单身女性。 > > > > > > 不管怎样，我们应该对他家庭的遭遇多一些同情和理解。However, Dave, this doesn't mean the way you > did > > > was completely right. > > > > > > On Tue, Oct 4, 2016 at 12:36 PM, Wang Hongying <[log in to unmask]> > > > wrote: > > > > > >> I saw that at least 50 times before. Can we block him from this list? > > >> > > >> -----Original Message----- > > >> From: Ben Dong [mailto:[log in to unmask]] > > >> Sent: Tuesday, October 04, 2016 8:43 AM > > >> To: [log in to unmask] > > >> Subject: Re: [CSSAMSU] Need a Chinese language tutor > > >> > > >> 钓鱼技能1/750？ > > >> > > >> On Tue, Oct 4, 2016 at 8:39 PM, Leonard Ling < > [log in to unmask]> > > >> wrote: > > >> > > >>> I've contacted him as well and he said single lady is preferred. > > >>> Highly suspected. > > >>> > > >>>> On Mon, Oct 3, 2016 at 9:30 PM, Jim Lee <[log in to unmask]> > wrote: > > >>>> > > >>>> my friend has contacted this guy once. I do not think he really want > > >>>> to find a tutor. But more like to seek a "female play partner". > > >>>> Chinese > > >>> girls, > > >>>> do not fool by this person. I suggest Admin remove this person from > > >>>> this list in case some girl be bailed to his trap > > >>>> > > >>>> 2016-10-02 16:34 GMT-04:00 Dave Carlo <[log in to unmask]>: > > >>>> > > >>>>> Currently an opportunity exists for a reliable ( non smoking ) > > >>>>> female Chinese language tutor .. > > >>>>> > > >>>>> We would like someone for tutoring both oral and written standard > > >>>> Mandarin > > >>>>> Chinese for a few hours each sessions to one child on Saturdays or > > >>>> Sundays > > >>>>> ONLY......Sorry at this time we are not able to accommodate a week > > >>>>> day tutoring arrangement / schedule.. > > >>>>> > > >>>>> No formal tutoring experience is required just have a congenial > > >>> attitude > > >>>>> working with small children focusing upon teaching common daily > > >>>>> conversational Chinese.. > > >>>>> > > >>>>> Reasonable to and from transportation is possible depending upon > > >>>> distance/s > > >>>>> involved. > > >>>>> > > >>>>> Please reply if interested by telling a bit about your self, and > > >>>>> any experience/s being around small children...Thanks > > >>>>> > > >>>>> ================================================================ > > >>>>> To Subscribe or Unsubscribe CSSAMSU mailing list, please go to: > > >>>>> > > >>>>> http://list.msu.edu/archives/cssamsu.html > > >>>>> > > >>>>> Click "Join or leave the list". For further assistance, please > > >>>>> contact Jerry McAllister [log in to unmask] > > >>>>> ================================================================ > > >>>>> > > >>>> > > >>>> ================================================================ > > >>>> To Subscribe or Unsubscribe CSSAMSU mailing list, please go to: > > >>>> > > >>>> http://list.msu.edu/archives/cssamsu.html > > >>>> > > >>>> Click "Join or leave the list". For further assistance, please > > >>>> contact Jerry McAllister [log in to unmask] > > >>>> ================================================================ > > >>>> > > >>> > > >>> > > >>> > > >>> -- > > >>> Regards, > > >>> Leonard > > >>> > > >>> ================================================================ > > >>> To Subscribe or Unsubscribe CSSAMSU mailing list, please go to: > > >>> > > >>> http://list.msu.edu/archives/cssamsu.html > > >>> > > >>> Click "Join or leave the list". For further assistance, please > contact > > >>> Jerry McAllister [log in to unmask] > > >>> ================================================================ > > >>> > > >> > > >> ================================================================ > > >> To Subscribe or Unsubscribe CSSAMSU mailing list, please go to: > > >> > > >> http://list.msu.edu/archives/cssamsu.html > > >> > > >> Click "Join or leave the list". For further assistance, please contact > > >> Jerry McAllister [log in to unmask] ============================== > > >> ================================== > > >> > > > > ================================================================ > > To Subscribe or Unsubscribe CSSAMSU mailing list, please go to: > > > > http://list.msu.edu/archives/cssamsu.html > > > > Click "Join or leave the list". For further assistance, please > > contact Jerry McAllister [log in to unmask] > > ================================================================ > -- Regards, Leonard