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这跟中国文化有啥关系啊……难道美国女生就敢单枪匹马闯陌生男人家里？再说了这标题就是征家教，又不是替孩子找妈……我觉得大部分人的直觉都是这帖子很诡异 > Date: Tue, 4 Oct 2016 14:06:03 -0400 > From: [log in to unmask] > Subject: Re: [CSSAMSU] Need a Chinese language tutor > To: [log in to unmask] > > 大家别骂了，他太太过身是真的，我们CAS学院的都知道。那位中国老师是很好的人，因为用功过度得病的。对她的家人，我觉得大家多点宽容。没了老婆，儿子没了妈妈是很惨的。他在沟通过程中有什么犯错不足的，大家尽量帮忙提意见。增加正能量，为社会主义添砖加瓦，早日征服美帝人。 > > Thank you for your very insightful research Peng. From your description and the information Dave supplied I have over 95% confidence interval in what Dave said. > > I heard about the past of Jessica from my cohorts in CAS back in 2014. As one of the many Chinese students from the ADPR program, I am very sorry for your lost Dave. I wish from the bottom of my heart the very best for you and your son. Something we can do at this point is to help clarify the misunderstandings on this forum and hopefully you will find what you need. > > Dave, as you might know something about the Chinese cultural, we are traditionally a very collective culture. We protect our in-groups especially our women and children. We are also very low in uncertainty avoidance, which means we don't usually trust strangers by their words. We will need a lot of information, credentials and contacts to establish the base of trust. This is very important for single women living overseas by themselves. They have very little protection and many "insecurities" here. If you please state your requirements more clearly in your communications and you will get positive response. I would suggest posting photos, credentials, and other information about you and your son. Hope that helps. > > Best, > > Tao Deng > Communication Arts & Sciences > 404 Wilson Rd., Room 550 > East Lansing, MI 48824 > E-mail: [log in to unmask] > > On Oct 4, 2016, at 13:18, Burkholderia Peng <[log in to unmask]> wrote: > > > > 标题：我们也许需要给予这个哥们多一点宽容 > > > > 正文：两三个月前我曾经联系过这个哥们，告诉他我的爱人闲赋在家（那时候她还没想学GRE）。之后他给了我如下的回复 > > Thank you much for your response.....very sadly my beloved Chinese wife > > passed away four years ago and at this time we prefer a female tutor who > > does not have family related responsibilities so as to allow for focusing > > her attention exclusively upon my son....we Skype with the grandparents > > each Sunday morning and it would be nice if my son could conversationally > > speak Chinese with them....it's not easy to find a tutor often times due to > > conflicting school class schedules , travel distance to and from our house > > and there also might be visa restrictions so you will be seeing my tutor > > posting several times.....hope you can appreciate these points.....good > > luck here in America and hope you will be enjoying your visit and the > > winter time SNOW and COLD.....thanks again for your kind offer.....take > > care... > > > > 看完他的邮件我当时怒发冲冠，羞愤难当，查克拉已满，体内九尾兽随时爆发。因为我就住在meridian > > mall旁边，他家也在那里，我还告诉他我能开车接送。他回复我travel distance > > restricted！！另外我都告诉我我爱人是陪读，他告诉我conflicting > > class！！最可恨的是那句 female tutor who does not have family related > > responsibilities。这句英文之委婉让我深感英文之博大，之浩瀚。 > > > > 后来多次看到这个哥们推送邮件，我就在google 非常random地搜索了关键词 “Dave Carlo lansing”。 > > http://cas.msu.edu/cas-faculty-member-jessica-carlo-passes/ 请放心打开链接，是MSU的。 > > 如果他是本人的话，他说的都是事实，他应该确实是找tutor，也能理解为什么希望是中国人，或许他希望这个tutor能或多或少填补一下孩子缺失的母爱， > > 所以希望是单身女性。 > > > > 不管怎样，我们应该对他家庭的遭遇多一些同情和理解。However, Dave, this doesn't mean the way you did > > was completely right. > > > > On Tue, Oct 4, 2016 at 12:36 PM, Wang Hongying <[log in to unmask]> > > wrote: > > > >> I saw that at least 50 times before. Can we block him from this list? > >> > >> -----Original Message----- > >> From: Ben Dong [mailto:[log in to unmask]] > >> Sent: Tuesday, October 04, 2016 8:43 AM > >> To: [log in to unmask] > >> Subject: Re: [CSSAMSU] Need a Chinese language tutor > >> > >> 钓鱼技能1/750？ > >> > >> On Tue, Oct 4, 2016 at 8:39 PM, Leonard Ling <[log in to unmask]> > >> wrote: > >> > >>> I've contacted him as well and he said single lady is preferred. > >>> Highly suspected. > >>> > >>>> On Mon, Oct 3, 2016 at 9:30 PM, Jim Lee <[log in to unmask]> wrote: > >>>> > >>>> my friend has contacted this guy once. I do not think he really want > >>>> to find a tutor. But more like to seek a "female play partner". > >>>> Chinese > >>> girls, > >>>> do not fool by this person. I suggest Admin remove this person from > >>>> this list in case some girl be bailed to his trap > >>>> > >>>> 2016-10-02 16:34 GMT-04:00 Dave Carlo <[log in to unmask]>: > >>>> > >>>>> Currently an opportunity exists for a reliable ( non smoking ) > >>>>> female Chinese language tutor .. > >>>>> > >>>>> We would like someone for tutoring both oral and written standard > >>>> Mandarin > >>>>> Chinese for a few hours each sessions to one child on Saturdays or > >>>> Sundays > >>>>> ONLY......Sorry at this time we are not able to accommodate a week > >>>>> day tutoring arrangement / schedule.. > >>>>> > >>>>> No formal tutoring experience is required just have a congenial > >>> attitude > >>>>> working with small children focusing upon teaching common daily > >>>>> conversational Chinese.. > >>>>> > >>>>> Reasonable to and from transportation is possible depending upon > >>>> distance/s > >>>>> involved. > >>>>> > >>>>> Please reply if interested by telling a bit about your self, and > >>>>> any experience/s being around small children...Thanks > >>>>> > >>>>> ================================================================ > >>>>> To Subscribe or Unsubscribe CSSAMSU mailing list, please go to: > >>>>> > >>>>> http://list.msu.edu/archives/cssamsu.html > >>>>> > >>>>> Click "Join or leave the list". 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