@Dave, I'm truly sorry to hear the sad story and the loss of your beloved
wife. But if you expect the potential to develop the relationship beyond a
"tutor", it's better to state this point clearly. And I do believe you can
find a new mom who loves your son as much as his birth mom.
On Tue, Oct 4, 2016 at 2:31 PM, 杜南 <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
> 这跟中国文化有啥关系啊……难道美国女生就敢单枪匹马闯陌生男人家里？再说了这标题就是征家教，又不是替孩子找妈……我觉得大部分人的直觉都是这帖子很诡异
> > Date: Tue, 4 Oct 2016 14:06:03 -0400
> > From: [log in to unmask]
> > Subject: Re: [CSSAMSU] Need a Chinese language tutor
> > To: [log in to unmask]
> >
> > 大家别骂了，他太太过身是真的，我们CAS学院的都知道。那位中国老师是很好的人，因为用功过度得病的。对她的家人，
> 我觉得大家多点宽容。没了老婆，儿子没了妈妈是很惨的。他在沟通过程中有什么犯错不足的，大家尽量帮忙提意见。
> 增加正能量，为社会主义添砖加瓦，早日征服美帝人。
> >
> > Thank you for your very insightful research Peng. From your description
> and the information Dave supplied I have over 95% confidence interval in
> what Dave said.
> >
> > I heard about the past of Jessica from my cohorts in CAS back in 2014.
> As one of the many Chinese students from the ADPR program, I am very sorry
> for your lost Dave. I wish from the bottom of my heart the very best for
> you and your son. Something we can do at this point is to help clarify the
> misunderstandings on this forum and hopefully you will find what you need.
> >
> > Dave, as you might know something about the Chinese cultural, we are
> traditionally a very collective culture. We protect our in-groups
> especially our women and children. We are also very low in uncertainty
> avoidance, which means we don't usually trust strangers by their words. We
> will need a lot of information, credentials and contacts to establish the
> base of trust. This is very important for single women living overseas by
> themselves. They have very little protection and many "insecurities" here.
> If you please state your requirements more clearly in your communications
> and you will get positive response. I would suggest posting photos,
> credentials, and other information about you and your son. Hope that helps.
> >
> > Best,
> >
> > Tao Deng
> > Communication Arts & Sciences
> > 404 Wilson Rd., Room 550
> > East Lansing, MI 48824
> > E-mail: [log in to unmask]
> > > On Oct 4, 2016, at 13:18, Burkholderia Peng <[log in to unmask]>
> wrote:
> > >
> > > 标题：我们也许需要给予这个哥们多一点宽容
> > >
> > > 正文：两三个月前我曾经联系过这个哥们，告诉他我的爱人闲赋在家（那时候她还没想学GRE）。之后他给了我如下的回复
> > > Thank you much for your response.....very sadly my beloved Chinese wife
> > > passed away four years ago and at this time we prefer a female tutor
> who
> > > does not have family related responsibilities so as to allow for
> focusing
> > > her attention exclusively upon my son....we Skype with the grandparents
> > > each Sunday morning and it would be nice if my son could
> conversationally
> > > speak Chinese with them....it's not easy to find a tutor often times
> due to
> > > conflicting school class schedules , travel distance to and from our
> house
> > > and there also might be visa restrictions so you will be seeing my
> tutor
> > > posting several times.....hope you can appreciate these points.....good
> > > luck here in America and hope you will be enjoying your visit and the
> > > winter time SNOW and COLD.....thanks again for your kind offer.....take
> > > care...
> > >
> > > 看完他的邮件我当时怒发冲冠，羞愤难当，查克拉已满，体内九尾兽随时爆发。因为我就住在meridian
> > > mall旁边，他家也在那里，我还告诉他我能开车接送。他回复我travel distance
> > > restricted！！另外我都告诉我我爱人是陪读，他告诉我conflicting
> > > class！！最可恨的是那句 female tutor who does not have family related
> > > responsibilities。这句英文之委婉让我深感英文之博大，之浩瀚。
> > >
> > > 后来多次看到这个哥们推送邮件，我就在google 非常random地搜索了关键词 “Dave Carlo lansing”。
> > > http://cas.msu.edu/cas-faculty-member-jessica-carlo-passes/
> 请放心打开链接，是MSU的。
> > > 如果他是本人的话，他说的都是事实，他应该确实是找tutor，也能理解为什么希望是中国人，
> 或许他希望这个tutor能或多或少填补一下孩子缺失的母爱，
> > > 所以希望是单身女性。
> > >
> > > 不管怎样，我们应该对他家庭的遭遇多一些同情和理解。However, Dave, this doesn't mean the way you
> did
> > > was completely right.
> > >
> > > On Tue, Oct 4, 2016 at 12:36 PM, Wang Hongying <[log in to unmask]>
> > > wrote:
> > >
> > >> I saw that at least 50 times before. Can we block him from this list?
> > >>
> > >> -----Original Message-----
> > >> From: Ben Dong [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
> > >> Sent: Tuesday, October 04, 2016 8:43 AM
> > >> To: [log in to unmask]
> > >> Subject: Re: [CSSAMSU] Need a Chinese language tutor
> > >>
> > >> 钓鱼技能1/750？
> > >>
> > >> On Tue, Oct 4, 2016 at 8:39 PM, Leonard Ling <
> [log in to unmask]>
> > >> wrote:
> > >>
> > >>> I've contacted him as well and he said single lady is preferred.
> > >>> Highly suspected.
> > >>>
> > >>>> On Mon, Oct 3, 2016 at 9:30 PM, Jim Lee <[log in to unmask]>
> wrote:
> > >>>>
> > >>>> my friend has contacted this guy once. I do not think he really want
> > >>>> to find a tutor. But more like to seek a "female play partner".
> > >>>> Chinese
> > >>> girls,
> > >>>> do not fool by this person. I suggest Admin remove this person from
> > >>>> this list in case some girl be bailed to his trap
> > >>>>
> > >>>> 2016-10-02 16:34 GMT-04:00 Dave Carlo <[log in to unmask]>:
> > >>>>
> > >>>>> Currently an opportunity exists for a reliable ( non smoking )
> > >>>>> female Chinese language tutor ..
> > >>>>>
> > >>>>> We would like someone for tutoring both oral and written standard
> > >>>> Mandarin
> > >>>>> Chinese for a few hours each sessions to one child on Saturdays or
> > >>>> Sundays
> > >>>>> ONLY......Sorry at this time we are not able to accommodate a week
> > >>>>> day tutoring arrangement / schedule..
> > >>>>>
> > >>>>> No formal tutoring experience is required just have a congenial
> > >>> attitude
> > >>>>> working with small children focusing upon teaching common daily
> > >>>>> conversational Chinese..
> > >>>>>
> > >>>>> Reasonable to and from transportation is possible depending upon
> > >>>> distance/s
> > >>>>> involved.
> > >>>>>
> > >>>>> Please reply if interested by telling a bit about your self, and
> > >>>>> any experience/s being around small children...Thanks
> > >>>>>
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> > >>> --
> > >>> Regards,
> > >>> Leonard
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Regards,
Leonard
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